I am happy with the sex that nature gave us, but not with the gender that society imposed on us. This world has been built by men, for men—so what exactly do we have to celebrate?
Money is linked to productivity, yet women contribute immensely through unpaid labor—work that is highly productive but remains unaccounted for and unmonetized.
The institution of marriage was designed to own women as property.
The proportion of women in parliaments worldwide remains alarmingly low.
Fewer women qualify in various fields compared to men, especially in science.
The 9-to-5 work structure expects equal commitment from both men and women, yet there are no period leaves and insufficient paternity leave, making it harder for women to balance work and health.
Motherhood is fulfilling, and the heightened sensitivity that nature grants women makes them spiritually stronger, yet men continue to conduct themselves violently. Women are still denied equal access to education and food, are treated as "paraya dhan" (outsiders in their own families), and are questioned about marriage and children in job interviews, while men are not.
We experience gender-based violence—physical, economic, and emotional—yet society expects us to celebrate.
Mankind has always used force to dominate both women and nature, not because they are weaker, but because they are too difficult for men to understand. The go for the golden goose, unsatisfied with the golden eggs.
Women are forced to become more like men to survive and succeed, while men have forgotten what masculinity truly is.
Meanwhile, nature itself is deteriorating. Women’s health is suffering—menstrual cycles no longer align with the moon, PCOD cases are rising, and reproductive health issues are increasing. The average age for menarcge has dropped from around 13 years to 8-11 years, while early menopause due to stress is becoming more common.
Why do women in offices mostly talk about what they cooked and their relationship with their mothers-in-law, while men do not?
We are already aware of the systemic issues:
● Gender disparities in education
● Unequal access to food
● Domestic violence
● Employment discrimination
● Female infanticide
● Property laws that still favor men in many cases
● The outdated and patriarchal system of ‘iddat’
There is also the feminization of labor—whenever a trade becomes mechanized and profitable, men take over. For instance, when farming relied on manual labor, women played a major role. But as tractors and machinery replaced manual labor, men took control. The same happened with grain milling (chakki)—once done by women, now taken over by men as it became mechanised at both small and large scales.
Society has never treated women well. What is there to celebrate?
● Men need to stop being violent toward women.
● Public spaces must be safe for women at all times.
● Household work should be respected—perhaps even monetized. Male education in this field needs to be addressed.
● Women should be allowed to pursue careers of their choice.
● Society must respect women. Period.
There have been times when my sister, my friends, and I were not taken seriously—not because our concerns were invalid, but simply because we were women. Yet, when a man spoke on our behalf, people listened.
Why do we call them "women presidents," "lady constables," or "lady police officers"? Why can't they just be presidents, constables, or police officers? The answer is simple: because not all women get these opportunities, and those who do have to fight for them.
Meanwhile, boys today are not becoming men. They refuse to take responsibility for a woman, yet demand "50-50" in relationships. They cannot get pregnant or lactate, yet they expect an equal partnership while contributing unequally.
They use dating apps for one-night stands, flings, and friends with benefits, seeking pleasure without responsibility. But when it comes to marriage, suddenly, they care about caste, skin color, and family background. They mislead women, making false promises of a long-term future while only seeking short-term gratification.
I am sorry, but our agreeableness, sensitivity, nurturing nature, and physical vulnerability have always been exploited—and still are.
There is nothing to celebrate.